We all have those people in our lives. The ones who you could never think badly of, you have no bad memories of and who you could trust with everything in your life.
I have several of them, and I like to see it as putting that special person in a bubble. Keeping them floating next to you, so they will never be tainted from everyday life.
We often do it to those old childhood friends, ex boyfriends who you left an opening for, those missed opportunities that leave you wondering what if? And worst of all - Those who do not deserve to be in there.
I recently had one of my bubbles come crashing back to the earth with a bang, when one of my old friend let me down. I could not fault anything they had done in the past, and I only had fond happy memories of them. They had moved away, yet I kept them close to me at all time in their bubble.
Well it's fair to say that the bubble crashed, and I just couldn't look at them the same way again. The perfect friend that I knew, had suddenly turned into a villain and I hated it. It felt like a part of me was torn, and that it would never be fixed.
I spoke about this subject with my friend, and we spoke of all of those people that we bubble and I realised. We have this perfect image in our bubble, that cannot be tainted, and is well... perfect. That one thing that a human never is. Perfect.
The realization hit me. That to keep someone is a bubble is cruel. It is expecting someone to be perfect all the time, and allows you to be hurt when they act human. We all make mistakes, and to feel torn apart about something that you may have done yourself hundreds of time, isn't fair on them, and worse of all, on yourself.
Of course, I spoke to my bubble friend, and forgave them instantly. After a few minutes of talking, the bubble was repaired, and I noticed that they personally didn't jump back in, but the memories did.
Happy memories are worth a million pounds, and they cannot be tainted with human error, but in fact grow stronger due to it.
I guess my point, is that you learn from my mistake. Never keep someone in a bubble, and open you both up to hurt when they mess up.
Always remember that they don't belong in a bubble that follows you around, but by your side adding to the adventure.