I hate nothing more than getting ready to go out with my friends. Whether it be going out for a meal, to go shopping or even for a night out, I know that I will drive myself insane before I even leave the door.
I reach that time (around an hour before I have to leave) where I have grabbed everything from my closet, tried it all on, and threw it all on the bed in anger. Why do I never have anything I feel happy in? I start to imagine what my friends will look like with their effortless beauty, and hours worth of work for me, in two seconds for them and I feel like rubbish.
I end up standing in front of the mirror frowning at my reflection, and hating myself. Well, this is what I want to stop for all of us. Hating ourselves, allows others to feed off our insecurities. So here are 10 tips I want to share with you all to stop the dreaded fear of our reflection.
1. Try spending a week without any make-up
I know many of us do not dare to venture out of the house without our make-up on, but try it for a week. Embrace your natural look, just how your mother made you. It's what someone will fall in love with, how your child will see you and the face your parents worked hard to raise. Why cover it?
2. Wear what makes you comfortable!
5. Surround yourself with photos of happy memories
It sounds insane, but surrounding yourself with selfies of you and your friends at happy moments of your life can make you feel great about your appearance. Seeing your face around your house, smiling and having fun, makes you realise that the best kind of beauty is the natural you.
6. Make a "What I love about me" list
First of all. This is not vain. This is acceptance. Make a list about all of the things you like about yourself. Even better, get a jar and ask your friends, your family and partner to write what they like about you on a piece of paper and put it into the jar. When you are feeling low, open up the jar and remind yourself of everything that they love about you.
7. Have a pamper night
Run a bath, paint your nails, use that body scrub stuff you brought months ago but never have time to use, apply a face mask and take it off before the time is up because you are convinced it is going to crack your face and most of all relax. There is nothing nicer than the feeling of pure pampering, where you feel like your skin is as smooth as a baby's and you could conquer the world. Even bribe your partner to give you a massage! Pamper yourself, god knows you deserve it!
8. Go exploring!
Grab a friend, partner or just by yourself and go and get some fresh air. Clear your mind, think positive thoughts and have some fun! The fresh air will do you some good, and you might just find somewhere new! Go for it Dora The Explorer!
Nothing is better for you than laughter. Spend some time with friends, watch a funny movie or even prank your friends. Laughter will make you feel great about yourself as who can worry about what they look like when they are crying from the site of your friend falling off the bed (With a helping hand?). Laugh, Laugh, and then laugh some more!
10. Remember that you are who you are!
That freckle on your neck? It's what your partner first noticed about you. Those stretch marks you have? They mark getting past a huge part in your life. That crooked smile? That is what your friend lives to see. That scar on your leg you hate? Marks your discovery of adventure in your younger life. All of the things that you hate about yourself, make you who you are. It doesn't matter if you hate you nose, your stomach or your feet. These things are who you are, and make one hell of an amazing person. You. Love them, just like everyone who is close to you do so BELIEVE in yourself.